The Breaking In Ceremony

The invitation read: 

Come watch as I break in my new manpet, David. 

Wine and snacks will be served. 

Bella

Her girlfriends all loved Bella's manpet breaking parties. Although they had not yet achieved the same comfort in the FLR lifestyle as Bella, they enjoyed watching and learning from her. And they were fascinated by the number of men of all ages that were her willing servants. 

Alison, Beth and Cindy were greeted at the door by a 6 foot tall, completely naked older man. 

"Hello. My name is David," I said nervously. I was not used to any of this and it showed. The women could see me turn red with embarrassment as my manhood was obviously engorging at their presence. 

With a smile the blond woman introduced herself, "Hello, David, I'm Alison, and this is Beth and Cindy." 

I nodded nervously, all the while thinking how strange it was to know that they were here to watch Bella peg me. It was not what I had anticipated when I agreed to be pegged by Bella. We had been corresponding for years about the FLR lifestyle- and particularly in her love of discipline and pegging and my curiosity in experiencing it. She knew I was an 'anal virgin' which in many ways made it more exciting (for both of us). But it was difficult for us to get together, until now. 

When I finally was able to make it to see her, she invited me to stay in her apartment. Soon after I arrived she laid out the ground rules: The first was that I was there to serve her- the entire time I was visiting. She told me that she wanted me to undress completely and give her all my belongings. I was to be completely dependent on her.  

I have to admit that I was shocked at first. I did not expect Bella to be so direct. But, somehow I knew that it was what I wanted as well. She watched me undress- making me feel extremely ill-at-ease and nervous. We had been corresponding so much and I knew what she wanted to do with me. I was undressing for her pleasure and for my eventual pegging... She had seen several pictures of me naked and remarked how much she liked to fuck my ass. Yet, now as I undressed for her I found myself hoping that she would not be disappointed with me in person. It seemed crazy, but I wanted her to ogle at me like a sex object. It made me feel both humiliated and aroused. 

When I finally got undressed, she collected all my clothes and belongings and locked it in a closet. She put the key around her neck and sat on the couch.

"David," she said, "Before we begin, why don't you come kneel by my feet and show me your gratitude." 

I was disoriented and confused. I really was not expecting to be in such a submissive situation so quickly, but there I was completely naked, completely erect and completely submissive at Bella's feet. 

"Gratitude for what?" I asked revealing my disorientation.

Bella's expression turned very solemn. "It looks like you need a little education and discipline. I want you to get up and get me the paddle on the table over there and bring it to me."

I thought of asking why, but I decided to just obey. I got up and walked with my engorged phallus swinging awkwardly. I brought it back and handed it to her. Bella then ordered me to lay across her lap. I hesitated. It seemed so unnatural for a man my age to get over her lap for a paddling. 

"David," she said, "This is your last chance."

I decided to comply and awkwardly got myself over her knees. As I settled down I could feel my erection press into her thighs and wondered if she noticed. She only said, "Good boy." as she ran her hand over my now vulnerable buttocks. I now found myself wondering if she found them to her liking. But she did not comment on that either. She said, "Now, this is your first lesson. You are my manpet and like any new pet, you need to be trained and disciplined to please your new Mistress"

She started paddling me with loud thwacks- and I started to feel my buttocks burning.

"You, will, need, to, show, me, your, gratitude, at, all, times." she said between blows. "You, can, start, by, kissing, my, feet, and, then, showing, your, gratitude, in, other, ways. Understand?"

"Yes" I grunted. "Please stop...let me show my gratitude..." 

She mercifully stopped and watched me as I struggled to get off her lap and then kneel down at her feet again. This time, I bent down and as I continued to feel the burning in my buttocks, I kissed her feet. 

"Thank you for inviting me, Miss Bella. Thank you for taking me for your manpet. I look forward to the training and to serve you!" I found the words came out easily- without hesitation and with unexpected ardor. Whatever awkwardness I may have felt in submitting to her before had completely disappeared. 

She held out her hand and said, "That's better! Now kiss the hand that punished you!"

I did it and thanked her again. She seemed to be satisfied.

"Now, let me tell you about the rest of the evening," She said. "In about a half an hour a few of my girlfriends are coming over to witness your submission to me."

She could see that I was confused and a bit uneasy. She smiled.

"All my new manpets have a submission ceremony. It's a little like a FLR wedding ceremony. These women will be our witnesses."

"A submission ceremony?" was all I managed to ask. 

"Yes, David. A ceremony where you pledge your devotion to me and I consummate your vows by making you mine."

My heart started to beat hard as I began to understand what she meant. And yet, I also felt myself get hard. 

"I finally get to fuck that tight ass of yours..." she said with a lascivious sparkle of  in her eyes reminding me of our previous correspondence. It was a look that made me feel a sexual vulnerability I had never felt before. She smiled, leaned over and stroked my face and said, "Poor man, you look like a frightened virgin about to have his first experience." 

She was right. It was exactly how I felt; and I was not used to it.

"It's OK. I picked out a nice dildo for you and I promise to be gentle." 

"Thank you." Was all I could say.

After an awkward silence, Bella said, "Well, you need to get ready. I suggest you go and take a shower and get yourself ready for the ceremony. There is no time for an enema, but I suggest you clean yourself back there for me and then use this lube." She said as she handed me a tube of lube. "Be sure to use a lot of it."

"Yes, Miss." I said as I stood up and went to the bathroom. 

But I wasn't prepared to having her watch as I showered. She wanted me to show her how I soaped and washed my penis and anus. And then after watching me dry myself off she handed me the lube and watched as I applied some to my finger and inserted it into my anus. She could see that I was fully erect as I reached behind and started to insert my finger. I looked at her look at me as I felt my sphincter squeeze my finger. I wanted to please her, so I tried again until I finally got it in. As my finger entered, she saw me take a short breath and try to suppress a groan.

"Good boy." She said. "Now spread it around inside for me."

I did as she asked and finally took my finger out. She watched as I washed my hand and wiped my buttocks again with a wet rag. 

"Now, we don't have much time," Bella said. "The girls will be here any minute. I want you to answer the door, show them into the living room and take their wine orders. You will treat them with the same respect and submission as you do for me. Any misbehavior and you will get another punishment..."

"Yes Miss."

So by the time the doorbell rang, I was already feeling very different. As I showed the women in and took their wine orders, I was conscious of my still burning buttocks, my lubricated anus and my very obvious erection. I could not have felt more chastened and humbled. As I walked off to get the wine, I could hear Alison comment on my red ass. Bella responded that she had had to teach me the rules. They all giggled. 

When I returned and started handing out the wine, Beth asked me if I was ready for the ceremony. I was not sure if she knew about my lubed anus so I hesitated. 

"He's is all lubed and ready for me, aren't you, David?" Bella asked making me more embarrassed. 

"Yes Miss."

"It's such a nice red ass," Alison said with a knowing smile. 

I saw Bella smile as well. "It's time for the ceremony to begin," she said. She put down her wine and gave me a card to read. "Now, David, in front of these witnesses, I want you to kneel at my feet and give me these vows."

"Yes, Miss," I said as I knelt down and looked at the card. I read out loud:

"Dear Mistress Bella. I offer you my body and my sex to own and to discipline. I offer you my anus as a symbol of my complete submission to you and your will." I stopped and showed my obvious nervousness at what I was saying. "Please accept it."

There was a short pause, and then Bella smiled. "David, I gladly accept it. Now get up and let's all go into the bedroom so I can consummate your vows and make you mine."

I stood up and followed Bella and was conscious of the other women following me to my 'deflowering'. 

They sat in a couch next to the bed and Cindy took out her camera. Bella told me to bend over the railing at the foot of the bed, spread my legs so that she can have good access to my scrotum and anus and stick my ass up high for her. I did this with my face flat on the bed facing the women to my right. I felt completely helpless and submissive. 

Standing where I could see her, Bella put on her strap-on dildo and held it up so I can see. I could see that it was long and mercifully thin with several bumps on the end that looked like graduated beads. I understood that these were there to stimulate my prostate.

I watched as she put on gloves and take out a tube of lubricant. While she started to lubricate the dildo she looked over to me and said, "I picked this out just for you, David."

"Thank you," I said meekly. 

Bella then walked over behind me and I felt her fondle my scrotum and feel my erection. It served to confirm to her my willingness and consent (and she so declared to the witnesses). Then I felt her finger on the rim of my anus. She rubbed around the verge of the anus and then I felt her finger go in. My sphincter reflexively squeezed at her finger.

"Now relax for me, David!" 

I tried the best I could to relax my sphincter for her as I felt her finger invade deep inside me. She probed much deeper than I had managed to get on my own. And I felt her move it all around inside with the confidence of experience. Then just as quickly, she withdrew it, making my sphincter spasm. 

"Now we are ready!" Bella said and gave my buttock a loud slap. "David: As I enter you, I want you to repeat your vow: I offer you my anus as a symbol of my complete submission to you and your will."

"Yes Miss." 

And she began to consummate my vows and own me, as I grunted out my vows: "I offer you my anus as a symbol of my complete submission to you and your will."

"Now we are ready!" Bella said and gave my buttock a loud slap. A slap designed to remind me of my earlier paddling and reinforce her dominance over me. "David: As I enter you, I want you to repeat your vow to me: I offer you my anus as a symbol of my complete submission to you and your will."

"Yes Miss." My heart started to pound as I felt her fingers guide her dildo to the verge of my anus. As I started to recite my vow, I found myself concentrating completely on my ready to be breached anus. "I offer you my anus as a symbol of my complete submission to you and your will." Strangely, the words helped me relax a bit as I found myself accepting my fate.

My head was tilted toward the three women sitting and watching. They were sipping their wine, taking pictures and smiling- they were clearly enjoying watching my impending deflowering. Their attention was directed to Bella and my pregnable and ready behind.  

"Don't fight it David," Bella said with a patronizing tone. "It's no use fighting me. Let me have my way with you. Relax for me, open up, surrender to me." 

"I'm trying, Mistress," I said still looking at the women and wondering if they knew how humiliating this was for me? A grown man learning how to relax his sphincter so he can be fucked. 

Then, I felt my anus being invaded. It was quick and I let out an involuntary moan. 

"Good boy! Now that I am in, there is nothing you can do. You are mine," she said as I felt her very slowly advance the dildo deeper and deeper into me. She was right, I felt my sphincter involuntarily squeeze against the invading probe, but to no avail. Soon I felt a very strange pressure-like sensation that was strangely pleasurable. I recognized it from when my doctor performed a rectal exam to feel my prostate. She would always apologize just before and say that I will feel her press on my prostate. The feeling now was more intense and it seemed to heighten and lessen as Bella advanced the beaded dildo. 

I soon realized I was moaning and groaning and clenching my fists. I could see Alison laugh and Cindy snap a picture with her camera. 

Then I felt Bella lean forward, give a final thrust of her pelvis that elicited a loud groan from me and ask, "How does it feel to surrender to me? To be my manpet?"

I wasn't sure how to answer. All I could feel was my sphincter hopelessly squeezing against Bella's invading dildo and the deep strange sensation of the dildo deep inside me. Yet, it also made me feel a degree of submission I had never felt before. It felt humiliating and erotic at the same time. 

"It feels like you own me, Miss." 

It seemed to please Bella. She reached her hand around my waist and felt for my neglected manhood which she found quite engorged. 

"I don't own you yet," She said fondling my erection,  "But, I am going to fuck you until you cum; and when you do cum, your ass, your body and your manhood will officially belong to me."

Then she straightened up and put her hands on my buttocks; and I felt the dildo withdraw. It was just as intense as when it was going in, but faster. Then she pushed it in and I gave another involuntary moan as I felt the dildo massage my prostate.

She drove it in and out a few more times, each time a bit faster and each time the feeling was more intense (and with a louder moan for the girlfriends to hear). I felt completely powerless to stop her. 

I began to understand the feeling of surrender and complete submission. 

Then she pushed it in one more time and stopped. She leaned forward again- this time with her mouth close to my ear and spoke softly. "It is time for me to own you." 

I felt my whole rectum start to vibrate, and soon began to feel waves of what I soon recognized were waves of orgasm. Then she started her thrusting motions again and I went into oblivion. 

The feeling was so intense, I seemed to go into a different state- a state of extreme humiliation, complete surrender, extreme submission and extreme pleasure. 

I am not sure how long it lasted, but when I began to come back into consciousness, I could tell I could hear Bella repeat, "That's it my manpet, surrender to me, you are mine!" My loins were vibrating with ecstasy and I could tell that I had ejaculated and I could feel my cock still contracting and spurting semen. 

I could also tell that I had been moaning and groaning very loudly, betraying my intense orgasm for all the women to hear. They seemed extremely amused. 

Then Bella must have turned the vibrator off. She gave the dildo one more thrust deep into me until it made a slapping sound against my very moist buttocks. And then she stopped. 

She and the girls could hear me still moan and whimper as my loins still convulsed in orgasmic afterglow. My sphincter still instinctively squeezed on her dildo, partly in protest and now partly in embrace. 

As I became aware of my whimpering I also became aware that Bella was still leaning over me. 

A wave of embarrassment mingled with the continued afterglow of my most pleasurable rape. 

"How does it feel to completely submit to a woman?" Bella asked in a soft voice not much louder than a whisper. 

"It feels good," I admitted, feeling my sphincter squeeze her again. My loins were still ejaculating the last reserves of my manhood each time my sphincter squeezed its submission. 

"You are now my manpet," Bella cooed. "You belong to me." She let me feel the moment. "Do you feel me?"

"Yes Mistress" I said feeling my sphincter squeeze again as the last drop of semen spurted out. 

"Good." 

Then I felt the dildo withdraw sending my sphincter into another spasm as it seemed to finally squeeze the dildo out. 

Bella walked across the room and started to take of the dildo harness and said, "OK, David, you can stand up." 

As I straightened up I could see the large deposit of semen on the towels on the edge of the bed and floor. And I could feel the lubrication and tingling up through my anus and deep inside my loins. A souvenir of my ravishment that would continue long after I cleaned up my semen. 

Rules For Your Female Led Relationship

Here is one woman's rules for a FLR 

Each Woman will modify these for Her pleasure and to Her preference as She deems fit.:

1) He must obey any order you make

2) His body is yours to do what you want with.

3) He must service you sexually in any way you like at any time you feel like it.

4) He is not allowed an orgasm without your permission. If he is being stimulated and feels he is getting close to coming it is his duty to tell you. Denying his orgasms for longer periods of time should be the norm to maintain his interest in serving you. This is not considered a punishment, just the norm.

5) He is not allowed to ask for sexual favors from you, your pleasure should be his only objective.

6) He is not allowed to touch his penis while it is erect.

7) He is to keep his genitals and ass shaven and clean at all times.

8) Your body is his temple and it is his duty to worship it whenever you request it. This includes massages, washing you in the shower, shaving your legs and genitals (if you want them shaved) and other services you might like.

9) Touching, kissing or licking any part of your body including your feet, ass or arm pits is considered a privilege for him and he should thank you properly for it.

10) He must complete any household chore in any way you tell him to.

11) His ass is yours to play with and should be regularly penetrated to signify that you are in control of him. He must prepare any tools you wish to use and willingly submit his ass to you for easy penetration. If you do not have time to fuck him yourself, you can tell him to use a dildo or a butt plug on himself.

12) If he fails to follow your commands or please you in the manner you expect he should be punished in one of the following ways:

(Or in any way you as the Woman, deems fit, you always know what is best.)

• Slapped across the face (minor) 
• Pull on his balls (minor) 
• Wear butt plug for an hour (minor)
• Spanked across your lap (medium) 
• Put his cock and balls in a bowl of ice (medium) 
• Attach clothes pins to sensitive parts like his balls (medium) 
• Rub toothpaste or menthol on his penis or asshole (medium) 
• Slap his cock until it goes soft ( medium)
• Whip his bare ass (major) 
• Fucked in the ass with a large dildo (major)

The punishments above can also be done for no other reason than to amuse you, even if his behavior has been good.

13) He should be rewarded for good behavior by allowing him to kiss your ass, feet, hands or other body parts of your choice. Only on rare occasions should he be allowed an orgasm as a reward.

14) If you want to give him an orgasm, but doesn’t want to give him the pleasure you can ruin the orgasm by stopping all stimulation as he is about to ejaculate. This signifies that orgasmic pleasure is your privilege and his ruined orgasm are just needed to keep his prostate healthy and not intended to feel good.

15) Any of the above rules should be modified to your preference, as you deem best. You always know what is best for your submissive/slave. 

Training 1

 

Penny had kept rick in chastity just shy of three weeks. It had been the longest term of denial yet and the results were palpable, although not always predictable. He displayed, at some moments, levels of obsequiousness that cause Penny instinctive arousal. At other moments, her slave became rebellious and surprising in other ways.

He had complained two weeks into his denial that it was beyond the scope of his expectations. He expressed his opinion with some anger, but remained partially restrained. It was the restraint that turned Penny on the most, because she knew he would lash out more if his genitals were not locked in chastity. She calmly met his stifled anger with her own.

“I can always extend the denial. It will help you understand and learn better,” she said with a calm voice.

Meekly the physically powerful man before her mumbled, “No. I don’t want it to be extended.”

“Then kneel down before me and apologize,” Penny instructed. She was still in the phase of the relationship during which immediate obedience, while gratifying and arousing, still took her with surprise. rick  knelt down and as instructed bowed his head to look down at her feet.

Penny stepped forward and unbuttoned the top of his shirt. Her motivation was singular. She wanted him in slavery, but still believed the seduction that lured him voluntarily lower and lower was the best methodology to employ. A former professional dominatrix was advising her and, to date, every recommendation made had worked perfectly. So Penny started teasing his pert nipples to elicit dulcet moans. rick calmed like an animal being tamed. Penny loved seeing the transformation and the steadily shrinking time between tantrums and obedience.

The coach told her it would be difficult and, depending on the style of dominance preferred, Penny could train in different ways, cruel and demanding or loving and calm.  Penny’s choice was the loving approach to induce voluntary compliance at all times, even to the most casual of suggestions. Her coach agreed this was her favorite approach, but did require some patience. 

“I don’t like when you talk back, nor when you hint of raising your voice to me. You agreed to the terms of your training weeks ago. It’s my responsibility to help you become the best man you can be. I believe the best man you can be is a weakling sissy.

“You remember the rules. We can take your chastity device off very easily,” she reminded him. “You only need to be in strict bondage so that I can safely remove your chastity. You know how tempted you get to touch yourself. That privilege no longer exists. You admitted you’ve been touching your little penis since you were a boy and need someone to help you learn restraint. I am that someone.”

rick was silent except for the soft moans coming out of his mouth. They were moans not as much about arousal as they were resignation. The chastity device in his pants restrained his penis to prevent an erection. He secretly knew that his recalcitrance could lengthen the denial even longer.

During the first week, it felt like a sexual game. But now it was more. His mind was being shaped although he didn’t realize it. He still believed at moments that it was still “role play.” He still thought he had choices, but Penny never intended to let that happen again.

“I just made a decision,” Penny said. “You are no longer permitted clothing in this household. You are a recalcitrant boy with no self-control. Your mommy never trained you properly. You are about to get the training that a mommy should give a boy. It means the boy should always be naked, humble, and eager to obey. I want you to go to the bedroom, undress, put your clothing away, and then return to me.”

Penny continued to play with the boy’s nipples and knew the strain was growing in his pants. These were the early stages of the power shift. Penny didn’t know even in her own mind how far she would eventually take her slave. The decision to keep him naked, she would later reminisce, was a mundane moment compared to the extremes she later had him endure.

She released his nipples and said, “now go.” He started to walk towards the bedroom and heard Penny say, “Quickly!” She giggled as he started scurrying in fear. She sat comfortably in a chair and smiled contentedly when he returned naked wearing nothing more than a metal device on his cock and balls. It was time to escalate the use of training utensils.

“Kneel,” Penny commanded softly. She never needed to raise her voice again. rickie was past the breaking point and she loved it. In her mind, he was no longer rick, the man the public knew. He was rickie, the Yin to her Yang. The obedience to her control. The feminine to her masculine. She was the power now. He was the bitch, a feminine animal to be conquered.

Penny looked down and observed a less than optimum position, because it was not humble enough. rickie knelt with his knees together and hands on his hips, elbows out. It was unacceptable. He hadn’t noticed the riding crop, nor the butt plug, Penny had by her side. She took the riding crop, tapped his elbows, and said, “Drop your arms.”

rickie obeyed and as her coach had instructed her to do, Penny once again said, “Good boy. Do you want to be a good boy?”

“Yes, Ma’am,” rickie said without hesitation. He was back in his place and Penny felt very gratified. Each episode of rebellion was becoming milder and milder, just as her training coach had predicted. Her coach insisted that the time would come when his will was fully broken. At that point, the rebuilding and molding of her slave could fully begin.

Penny took the riding crop and flicked it over her slave’s nipples. She then tapped each of his inner thighs and told him to spread, which he did without hesitation. She then instructed him to sit back on his heels and clasped his hands behind his back. He obeyed. She then told him to raise up so his genitals would dangle for her.

Penny had fantasized many times about spanking the testicles of an adult male. She considered it an entitlement to Female Superiority and a symbolic gesture of acceptance and servitude. The first spank caused rickie to flinch. The second was firmer and caused him to flinch again. “Don’t move, baby,” Penny instructed gently.

Throughout the initial training and conquering period, Penny continued to issue commands in soft kind tones, almost motherly. Her coach told her that the ideal situation was a lifestyle in which her husband would become her slave wife, accustomed to gentle vocal prodding. Penny reached out and played with a nipple, granting her slave the pleasure he needed and she started continuing a rhythmic tapping on his testicles.

She saw the strain as his penis futilely tried to grow. “Would you like permission for an erection?” Penny asked playfully. She knew the answer. She always knew the answers before her slave did. He moaned loudly and appropriately used the right words to earn the erection.

“Yesssss. Please, Ma’am. Please let me have an erection.”

“You know the rules, sweetie. I’ve a chair in the bedroom set up. It is where I will tie you and show you a little surprise. But first, we have to enhance your need. I’ve decided that you may only have an erection while strictly bound. You know this, yes?”

“Yes, Ma’am,” rickie moaned while feeling the confusion of arousal on a nipple mingled with painful spanks on his testicles.

“To teach you properly, I’d decided you need to be penetrated with this pretty little toy.” Penny held up a pink butt plug and watched rickie’s eyes widen. “From now on, you may be erect, but only if bound and penetrated.”

rickie had expressly told her early in the relationship that anal penetration was a limit with which he was uncomfortable. Penny assured him that she would test his limits and this was one of those moments. She was unsure if he would accept the conditions of her offer, but was firm in her position that it would remain purely “an offer.” If he refused, there would be no erection.

rickie looked at the device and felt he would not be able to handle it. He told her that it was too much and was shocked when Penny accepted his answer. She added that there would be no erection as a result. rickie’s eyes widened as dozens of thoughts went through his mind in a flash. 

Will I never get out of this, he wondered? Could I fit that in me? 

Could she fit that in me? 

Is this real? Did she wish for this? This is all for an erection? 

Will I ever cum again? 

I’m ready to beg for an erection, which will probably only frustrate me, but it’s worth it… 

Is it? She once told me to be careful what I wished for…“Wait.

I’m sorry. I want to try,” rickie said in a whiny voice.

“Aw. I’m sorry too, baby,” Penny responded while pouting her bottom lip playfully. “You had your chance. Perhaps another time. You need to learn. When Ma’am offers you opportunities, you should accept them. I promised you I would never make you do anything. Everything that happens to you will be because you want it, with the exception of your chastity. That is non negotiable. Eventually you will learn to beg for the things I offer.”

“Please, Ma’am,” rickie pleaded. This time he was less whiny and seemingly eager to obey.

“Please what, baby?”

“Please put it in. I want it.”“But you said you didn’t…”

“I know. That was a mistake. I should have said I was ready.”

“Ah, poor baby,” Penny said with mock empathy. “I don’t want you ready. I want you hungry. I want you to desire everything I do. I want you to share in that. I want you to want to be fucked in your pussy hole.”

Her words shocked rickie. He didn’t expect such vulgarity and realized she was much more powerful than he anticipated. He was fearful and helpless. “I do,” he finally said. Penny wasn’t sure if she believed him. In fact, she knew she didn’t and it was an even bigger turn on. It meant that she could get him to do things he didn’t want, but she did.

Penny stood. She looked down at rickie on his knees and saw him helplessly looking her in the eye. She reached down and started playing with his nipples again. “Beg,” She said.

“Please, Ma’am,” rickie begged while moaning and arousal. “Please put it in me. I want it.”

“Do you?” Penny asked while knowing her boy was in a state of near hypnotism.

“I do. Please.”

“I think you just want to be hard. But I want you to want to be fucked like a bitch.” rickie paused and Penny asked directly. “Do you want to be fucked like a bitch?”

rickie paused and finally said, “Yes, Ma’am! I do. Please.”

“Please what, baby?” She asked playfully. She knew he was hypnotic now with desire. She could make him run around the block naked, she thought. But the fun of making him admit his humiliation was even more delicious. 

“I don’t want to put it in you,” Penny said, emphasizing the last words. “I want you to want to be fucked. Do you?”

rickie moaned louder and begged. “Yessss. Please, Ma’am. Please.”

“Please what?” Penny asked calmly.

“Please fuck me.”

“Good boy… but not good enough. Try again.”

“Please fuck me, Ma’am.”

“Good boy. You’re getting closer. Try again.”

“Oh God!” rickie said, verging on panic. The floodgates opened. “Please! Please please please. Please fuck me, Ma’am. Please fuck my hole. Oh God. Please fuck my male pussy. Please.”

rickie ran out of words, but Penny had not. “Like a bitch?”

“Yes, please, Ma’am. Like a bitch.”

“So you’re saying you’re my bitch?” She asked, pushing him to the limits of humiliation.

“Yes. I am Your bitch.”

“Then how do you want to be fucked? Tell Ma’am.”

“Oh god!” rickie was out of control of himself and under the spell Penny’s dictates. “Please fuck me like a bitch. Please make me your bitch. Please, Ma’am. Please.” The last words were uttered in complete surrender. He knew it was over. She had checkmated him and there was nothing he could do.

Penny’s instinct told her to make him wait for another session, but her own eagerness to penetrate her slave for the first time overtook her. “Kiss my feet and apologize for your recalcitrance today. You’ve been a bad boy. You tell Me you want to be a good boy. But you’re not.”

She looked down and saw a man being broken. Her pussy moistened as the power washed over her body. rickie wasted no time kissing her feet and, when Penny kicked off her shoes, he began licking her toes. She extended her big toe of her right foot and said suck it. He obeyed without hesitation.

As he kissed her feet and sucked her toe, Penny used the riding crop on his bottom. The strikes were not loving taps, but instead punishment. He had been recalcitrant. He had complained about his chastity. He did not move quickly enough when she sent him to get naked. He needed to learn. After several lashes which left marks on his bottom, Penny said, “it’s time to learn a new position.”

“I will call this position ‘present.’ It means you will present your hole to me by facing away from me, raising your bottom in the air, moving your knees apart and extending your arms. In this position you symbolize total acquiescence to my power and voluntary acceptance of penetration into your male pussy hole.”

To his credit, rickie desperately continued kissing Penny’s feet and sucking her toes. Suddenly, she said, “Present!” rickie moved without hesitation. It was a beautiful sight for Penny.

She took her time, she admired his exposed bottom and immediately considered that would need to be shaved in the future. For the time being, she simply put lubrication on the toy and then held it at the tip of her slave’s anal orifice. “Push, baby,” Penny said softly. “Show Ma’am how much you want to be My little bitch.”

rickie pushed back, but struggled. It was hard for him to get the toy inside. Penny decided to show leadership compassion but coming off the chair and crouching beside her slave. She teased his left nipple while her right hand applied pressure to the toy. Rickie held firm as Penny started pushing until the thick nodule was almost in her slave’s body.

Penny thought she might orgasm from the feeling of power. She heard rickie moan in earnest pain, but was relentless in her decision and finally pushed the big nodule all the way in. rickie gasped and shivered in pain. Penny stood bent over him and then reached around him to play with both of his nipples. She was an owner domesticating a pet.

The pain subsided and rickie actually felt some degree of pleasure as his hole was recovering from the wide penetration and now only modestly stretched and relaxing. It was a unique feeling of arousal that caused his penis to twitch even more in his cage. Penny sat back in her chair and looked at her slave. He remained in the ‘Present’ position, much to her pleasure.

“It’s too bad you didn’t accept my offer immediately,” the Ma’am stated calmly. “You don’t deserve an erection, but I’m so very proud of you. I assured you that you must be bound and penetrated to earn an erection, but didn’t guarantee it.  This is one of those times you won’t be rewarded, because you don’t deserve it. But at least you know you are now a fuck toy capable of receiving penetration. That is a big milestone in your development. So think about that, as Ma’am goes to the bedroom and undresses.”

“You will think about the events of the last hour,” rickie’s Wife/Owner instructed. “I need you to ponder your behaviors and work to be better. I am proud of you, though, because your penetration and role as my new fuck toy has earned you the right to worship my pussy. Stay in this position until I summon you to my chambers.”

Experiencing Femdom

I never thought that I would put myself in a position for play before our relationship.

Over the holiday weekend I was invited over to a woman's house that I have been chatting with for some time, while I thought our time together would have been just us, I was not correct.

Arriving at Claire's door five minutes prior to the time I was told to be there, she greeted me with a warm smile, and a welcoming hug.
Stepping into the vestibule of her house we sat down on this entryway wooden bench.

She reminded me that I agreed that once I entered her home, as respect to her, I would remove all my clothing and then we would sit and discuss what she had on her mind.
She also told me then that she had invited friends over, with the thought that I, as many other men would not show, and She would never be waiting around for man.

I thought about everything and decided that yes I did remember agreeing that once I entered her home I would remove all my clothing. I did tell her that I was unsure how comfortable I was with the thought of other woman there. She stood up and very softly said that she understood and I should go, and refrain from ever contacting her again.

I almost left, but then I turned around and asked her if I could still come inside. She looked at me, took me by the hand, and brought me inside. As soon as the door closed, she sat on this wonderful red seat faced me and with her finger directed me to remove my clothing. Doing as I said I would I stood there completely naked, with my clothes in a pile around my feet. She handed me a garbage bag, told me to place my clothes inside and then in the bottom of the hall closet.

Completing that task I walked over to her, and again with her little finger pointed to the ground at her feet, she told me to kneel there with my legs slightly open to allow my genitals to hang naturally.

Firmly she slapped me across the face, so much that my head moved, and I felt the sting of her hand. Quietly she asked me what I was feeling, I responded: "honestly; confused, attracted, embarrassed but all at ease." She giggled and smiled then told me that during our conversations online that she had a good feeling about me, that I was serious in meeting a FemDom.

Today however as she did not think I was going to show or that I would make an excuse to come later, so she invited some of her friends over for lunch. So now she was going to give me two choices.

1.) The first choice was to go upstairs in her bedroom, and agree to be tied to the bed and left there until her friends left for the day, of course, with a but plug firmly in place.

2.) The second choice was that she would introduce as her friend and I would stay with them help serve lunch, and act in a very submissive way without letting anyway know about us.

While I did not want to be left alone upstairs for a undetermined amount of time, I choose #2 to be with the girls down stairs.

While we were getting ready for them, I remained bare and cooked and cleaned with out clothes.

I was told who everyone was, and how she thought I should behave.

As the time become close to the first arrival she pulled me by the ear into the kitchen, with my garage bag of clothes. She slapped my face two times in both directions, held my penis and balls in a tight grip and warned me to make sure she was not embarrassed by me, or she would remove my clothes in front of them all and spank me.

I nodded and told her I would behave as she asked.

The evening went well, from greeting them at the door, to helping and serving dinner, and snacks, to making them drinks as they sat and chatted.

They each asked how did she find such a wonderful man, one that does the cooking and serving, and takes care of her needs, instead of their men that sat on there behinds always being catered to.

She smiled and said I must be lucky that is all.

As they all left one by one, they each kissed me on the cheek and thanked me for being such a wonderful help.

Once they were all gone the house was almost spotless for I have been cleaning all night. She looked at me, and asked me why I was in clothing when I know I should not be. Immediately I stripped placing all my clothes in the garbage bag and back in the closet. Then I continued to clean the rest of the house.

I heard a knock on the door, and I was told to continue cleaning. While finishing cleaning, drying the dishes and putting them away I forgot about the knock I heard before. I turned off the light, opened the swinging door from the kitchen to the dinning room to see the Lady of the house, talking with one of her friends that was there for the dinner party. There I was standing there completely bare, as they were sitting there talking. Trying not to blush I politely asked both of them if they wanted a beverage? Claire, the Lady of the house, responded and told me that they would like red wine.

I turned around and went back to the kitchen to retrieve a bottle of red wine. Finding two glasses I returned to the dinning room in which they were sitting. As I approached the table to put the two glasses down, before I continued to uncork the wine; Claire's friend had her hands on my bottom and pulling on my sack. Looking in Claire's eyes I knew I was to behave.

I opened the wine, poured them half full glasses, and as I was about to step away from the table; Claire took hold of one of my hands and placed it on the table, and then the other hand. Both women then stood up and walked behind me. My hands were on the table, Claire pulled my waist out a bit more, she pushed the arch of my back down,turned my feet inward, which opened my butt cheeks, leaving me completely exposed.

Claire's friend slapped my ass once and then a couple more times. She asked, in an open question, is this why he is such a good man? Claire responded yes, and actually today is our first real life meeting.

Claire has spoken to me online for some time now. Yet today was the first day we met face to face.

Claire told her friend she was so impressed with my service, and attitude toward the whole afternoon and evening that she thought we would be spending more time together. This made me happy to hear.

There was another woman there that I did not know and still I was uncertain as to what was going to happen. Although, I did find out soon enough that Clair's friend was not knew to spanking and she was well versed in it.

I was spanked soundly by her, while Claire sat and watched, and sipped her wine. My bottom was on fire, my face was no longer blushing. I was truly accepting what was happening, and was doing my best to try and remain still.

As Claire was almost done with her wine, she stood up and told me to go stand in the corner, nose and head close to the wall. Keeping the bottom sticking out.

I could hear the Woman laughing and giggling. Soon after that Claire's friend walked up to me, and smacked my, already red, ass. Then whispered in my ear: "next week will be even better."

Hearing the door close, then Claire called me to the living room. As I walked gingerly into the room, she told me to lie down on the floor. Doing as told, then she stood over me then gracefully she kneeled down. I watched her panties stretch over her beautiful ass, and pull tight across her sex.

She asked me if my eyes were open I told her they were. Good, she proclaimed, look at my body! Look at how wonderful it is! And when I sit on your face, you will make sure to please me. As she said it my cock became hard. And she took notice!

She turned around, pulled off her panties and as she sat down her ass was over my nose, and she slid down to make sure my tongue could reach the area that she wanted me to pay close attention to.

Each time she moaned, she slapped my hard cock. As her moans became faster and harder, she turned to slapping my balls. Slapping them and hitting them harder and harder as she escalated in pleasure.

I could feel her getting close, and I worked like a machine to ensure her happiness. Finally she exploded in my mouth, her cum was overwhelming. Flowing down the side of my mouth and down my throat her juice ran. I worked determined to keep up and maintain catching all her juices.

She stayed in position for quiet some time, while I was still sucking softly, but with passion for her pleasure.

Once she was finished using me, she stood up and walked over and rested on the couch.

She looked at me as I lay there waiting her orders. She then spoke telling me that she wanted to see me again. I should go bring her my phone. As I went to the closet to retrieve the phone from the bag which held my belongings, she told me to bring the rest of my belongings as well. I did as she said.

I handed her my phone, thankfully I did not have a lock code on it, as she swiftly  programmed her phone number into it.

Then she took a picture of her front door and added it as her contact photo.
Once she handed me the phone back, she then told me how often I was to call and when I was to text her.

She then asked me if I was going to masturbate as soon as I was free to.
I replied: "Yes, Ma'am".
She nodded and told me to do it standing up in front or her.

As I started to masturbate; she paid me little attention. She put on her clothes, went to the kitchen and poured herself another glass of wine. She came back and checked on me and saw I was not quite ready yet. She continued to do some small things about the room. Then finally I was ready to release. I looked at her, and she knew, so she nodded and then said: "Yes, Come already!"

I was waiting for her approval, once I had it I came and it went all over my hand then down my wrist. She took my hand and placed it close to my mouth. She told me to lick it up. I did as I was told. I cleaned up every drop up.

As soon as I was finished, She told me to get dressed.
Once I was, She walked me to the door. Once there, she pointed her finger to floor and told me she was going to slap me. She gave me five good slaps across the face. Then told me to stand up with my back touching the door. As I did she brought her knee to my balls, and said because I was such a good boy she would not but I should know going forward that she can , and will when she desires it. I said: "Yes, I know."

Before she asked me to leave, she kissed me deeply.
She then unfastened my pants, left them drop to the floor, remove my underwear allowing them to drop to the floor. Then that quickly she raised her knee with great force, into my balls! As I gasped for air, she asked me when I wanted to come back. I replied I would like to stay...

By: Daddy's workshop

Finding your Queen

So you want Her to be your Queen, your Goddess, your Mistress...

She holds all these titles and more.

She is a Woman, She is a Lady, sometimes She is your Wife, and even a Mother...

What I hear so often is how men get it all wrong and they wonder why they can't keep a Woman's attention.

Let Me help you.

The Short List:

If you aren't romancing Her the way She needs it.

If you are not putting in the work to show Her you are worth Her time.

If you are not putting Her and Her needs first.

If you primarily, or often want to talk about your fantasies, your desires,  your  dreams.

If you are telling Her "No" without possibilities.

If you are doing any of these listed above.

You are doing it all wrong and have the wrong mindset!

Change the way you think!

Genuinely put Her first!

Buy the damn flowers, and gifts!

Make reservations for dinner!

To Her favorite place. 

Where She will be able to relax and feel like the Lady, the Queen, the Goddess She is!

Make it All about Her!

 

Ask what She wants and needs!

Learn to anticipate Her needs!

Stop being so selfish!

I  find most men primarily seek a Woman who will serve them, even though they claim they seek a FLR relationship. 

This behavior and way of thinking is not going to get you a Woman for a FLR.

When you put Her first and stop putting expectations on Her to serve your kinks and fantasies you will find She may be more interested in giving you what you desire.

I'm not saying to not share what you deeply need and desire. 

What I am saying is show Her respect and prove to Her your agenda is not selfish and self centered but genuinely about Her.

Any questions?

Ask in the comments below!

Helpful Tips & Training

By Mistress Kylie,

This post contains all of the ideas I have been able to come up with or find on the internet for female-dominant, male-submissive scenes…

You’ll probably notice that a lot of the ideas are designed for use over many days and are associated with orgasm control. This theme emerged over time because orgasm control is so effective at heightening male desire. We use this list in a very simple framework when setting up scenes. First she picks one or more of the ideas below (either by hand or randomly) and makes rules and tasks out of them. Then, after a few days of suffering through them and pushing me to peak sensitivity, the frequency of rules and tasks increases (over a weekend, for example) and she adapts punishments from the list (or comes up with them on her own) to achieve a good, intense session.

So anyway, I hope you enjoy them and they inspire ideas of your own! Please note, though, that we haven’t tried all of them. Some of them may not be practical.

1) Hold Pennies Against the Wall

This task is very hard: have him hold pennies against the wall using only his fingertips — one penny per finger. Depending on how you position his arms, this can be easy or extremely difficult. Arms spread wide apart forces him to get his face very close to the wall and will tire his arms quickly. Same with his hands being very high up.
For every penny that drops, punish him. Keep the punishments severe enough that he really fears dropping a penny.
You can also make him hold a penny against the wall using his erect cock. This will force him to keep himself hard.

2) Controlled Orgasms

Rules that control his orgasms are the most effective and psychologically impactful rules you can impose. These rules also become good excuses for torment and punishment. The mix of wanting to orgasm and facing big punishments feels very exciting.
Ideas for Normal Situations

• He has to earn orgasms –> After you have had five orgasms, he gets one. –> He chooses to undergo a punishment or humiliation in order to flip a coin. Heads grants him an orgasm. Tails gets him another punishment or humiliation –> He earns points toward his next orgasm by acting the role of the “perfect slave.” These can only be earned by doing things for you without being asked, and acting the part perfectly. 20 points per orgasm.
• He must ask permission prior to orgasm.
• He is allowed to orgasm, but doing so carries an automatic set of punishments or humiliations.
• Every time he orgasms, he owes you a favor.
• You pretend to believe that he will take any opportunity to have an orgasm, and go to great lengths to prevent it (chastity belt, lots of restraints, careful supervision).
• After every orgasm, he must collect his semen and do something embarrassing with it.
• Come up with a “training regimen” to teach him to resist orgasm. He wears a chastity belt until he can resist your best efforts to get him to come while you reach two or three orgasms.
• He is forbidden to clean up his own semen if it lands on him.
• He gets a very short window every day to bring himself to orgasm while you watch. The chastity belt goes back on at the end whether he succeeds or not.
• He gets a set limit of orgasms per week, which he can trade like currency. (His limit could be one. Or one every two weeks. Just because he can trade doesn’t mean he needs a lot of them.)

When a Slave’s Been Bad

• Instead of a promised orgasm, he has to edge instead and thank you at the end as if he had an orgasm.
• Lengthen the time he has to wear the chastity belt.
• Treat pre-cum as orgasms for punishment purposes.
• Warn him about a severe punishment if he orgasms, then tie him down and ride him until he does.
• During the time when he is permitted to orgasm, position his body so that he can’t prevent himself from coming on himself.–>Make him put his knees on the wall behind him so that his cock points toward his face
• If you are on top and he comes, keep going. The sensory overload is really overpowering. Even though it feels great, it’s a good “mean” thing to do to him.

Punishment Ideas

Remember that if your slave just had an orgasm without permission, he’s less in the mood than he was before. So instead of a regular punishment, pick one that is more severe, and execute it after he’s back in the mood (possibly the next day).

• Make him write out a coupon for a certain number of days spent in a chastity belt. Spend it whenever you like. If he picks a number that is lower than what you picked, make him choose again and double his next result. (You can choose to have him give you a number of orgasms instead of a number of days.)
• If he comes inside of you, sit on his chest while his semen drains out of you. Tie him up until it dries.
• Chain a heavy weight to his chastity belt for a while, giving him something he either has to drag by his balls or deal with as he does other tasks for you.

3) Edging

Edging is the practice of bringing someone very close to the point of orgasm and then baking off. It’s usually done repeatedly, which both increases sexual need and results in the closest thing to multiple orgasms for a man. You can force your Slave to edge himself a few times to increase his sexual need. Or, you can do it to him and punish him if he orgasms. This will force him to resist orgasm.

4) Must Volunteer Information

This is similar to the “Must Not Lie” rule, but forces him to give you extra details whenever he’s answering a question. It can be very useful, because he has to actively think about what other secrets he can divulge. Use it to force him to keep you aware of the things he’s thinking about.

Ideas for Normal Situations

• He must tell you when he’s horny
• He must go into detail about what he wants sexually and why
• Whenever he’s asked a question, he has to answer it, and then say “Also…” and add more details.
• He must try to help you come up with more effective punishments, more humiliating tasks, and tell you how he might try to get out of obeying you

When a Slave’s Been Bad

Since you can’t read his mind, there’s no way to know if he’s holding something back. Rely on punishments if you find out that he didn’t tell you something.

Punishment Ideas

This is a rule that focuses on helplessness and humiliation. It’s also oral, since he has to tell you things. If you catch him leaving something out, punish him accordingly.

• Make him write out several punishments and rank them according to desirability. Pick one or more for him to go through.
• Make him tell you the most humiliating punishment he can think of. If he disobeys again, he has to go through with it.
• Take away his right to speak for a while. Use a ball gag or tape if necessary.
• Tell him to apologize. Don’t accept his apology until he recommends a good physical punishment or humiliation for you to employ.

5) Must Keep Legs Spread

Here is a very simple rule that is designed to keep things awkward for him and emphasize that his cock and balls belong to you. Usually the rule is that his legs can’t touch his cock or balls while you are in the room. Tell him that you want to see his balls hanging down.

Ideas for Normal Situations

• He must keep his legs spread whenever you are within reach of his genitals
• He must spread his legs on command

When a Slave’s Been Bad

• He must keep his legs spread at all times, just in case.
• Tie his legs up by the knees and spread them out. Then tease him by doing things to him that would make him want to close his legs

Punishment Ideas

Breaking this rule is all about not giving you access to his cock and balls, or about him not putting them on display for you. Punish him accordingly.

• Tie his ankles to his wrists. Then tie his elbows to his knees. Last, pull his cock and balls behind his legs and tie his legs together so that they are trapped down by his butt. Now he gets to keep his legs closed, but you have full access to the genitals. Torture them for a while until he becomes more compliant.
• Since he won’t put his genitals on display on his own, take away all his clothes and tie him up in a full-body rope harness. That way he can stay on display for you until you get tired of him.

6) Must Obey

Make it unconditional that he has to obey you, or anyone you specify, and punish him if he doesn’t do it promptly or well. This is one of those rules that you’ll talk about a lot, bringing it up to him to remind him that he doesn’t have a choice (or that you’ll punish him severely) if he doesn’t obey.

Ideas for Normal Situations

• Have him acknowledge every command with “yes ma’am,” “yes, mistress,” or similar.
• Give him a time limit to obey. For example, he might get punished for not jumping to do what you say within three seconds.
• If he’s being forced to obey someone else, have him ask that person to give you an evaluation of how well he did.
• Test him by giving him a list of things to do while you are away. Demand proof that he did them.
• Come up with a word you can use to tell him that you are giving him an order while he’s in public so that others aren’t aware that you’re giving him a command to obey.

When a Slave’s Been Bad

• Dramatically increase the number of things he has to do so that he’s kept very busy
• Use toys, locks, and complicated tasks to make obeying very hard, such as –> Blindfolding him, then telling him to get a specific item that can only be identified by sight –> Chaining up his hands and then giving him something to type (with his tongue?) –> Give him an enema, and tell him he can’t release it until a task is done.
• Give him tedious tasks, like writing out a sentence fifty times.

Punishment Ideas

Failure to obey you should carry the harshest punishments. The point of this game is to use punishments to force him to obey you. Therefore, the punishments have to be intense enough that doing humiliating and painful tasks is less miserable than going through with the punishments. Generally, you want to pick very painful or very humiliating punishments for this kind of error. Try to get him to call out in pain several times. He’s got a safe-word if you go too far.

• Chain him up so he is completely immobile, then leave him like that for a while, maybe periodically torturing him.
• Take away a sense or a privilege for a long time, such as use of his hands for 24 hours.
• Add a couple extra rules to his list of rules
• Make him pick a few punishments he would rather not be forced to undergo and then draw one randomly
• Add a few days of slavery to his sentence

7) Must Become Hard

With this rule, the slave must force himself to become hard. This usually carries a time-limit, or is just a way for you to keep his hands on his cock, constantly fumbling with it. This has more to do with him having to make himself hard with you watching than it does with him getting hard. He is putting himself on display. Keep that in mind and see if you can think of ways to change things up.
Consider making him exaggerate the process so that it’s extra disruptive. Some ideas are to have him stretch out his cock, or use both hands, or kneel until it’s done.
This rule can be fun if he can’t use his hands to make himself hard. He’ll be left humping you or the furniture to comply.

Ideas for Normal Situations

• When Mistress enters the room, slave has a certain amount of time to make himself hard.
• On a schedule, such as once every three hours, slave has to make himself hard and present his cock for your inspection. If it’s not hard enough, or if it offends you in any way, he can be punished.
• When seeing something arbitrary, such as a high heel, he has to become hard –> You might say, “You like skirts so much? Well, you’re going to show it!” And have him make himself hard every time he sees one on TV.
• Upon hearing an arbitrary word, such as “songbird,” he has to make himself hard.

When a Slave’s Been Bad

• Instead of just making himself hard once, he has to become hard, become soft, and become hard again –> Add a time-limit to complete this task to make it harder.
• Make it more uncomfortable for him by keeping him from freeing his cock from his clothes or adjusting it while it’s getting hard.
• Forbid him to use his hands to make himself hard or simply tie his hands out of reach of his cock. This will make it much tougher, but still possible.
• Make him stay hard for five minutes before he can let go of his cock or stop stimulating it.

Punishment Ideas

• If he fails to become hard for you in time (or if he forgets), change the rule so that he isn’t allowed to become hard for a day. See if you can catch him breaking that rule and slap a chastity belt on him.
• The next time he has to be hard on command, put him in a lot of pain by slapping at his balls with a ruler or squeezing them (or similar) while he is trying to get hard.
• Make him get hard without physical contact on his cock of any kind. (This might be very difficult.) Tie him up to be sure that he can’t move, of course.

8) Must Use Specific Names

This is a rule in every slave contract: that he must refer to you by a name of your choice. You can extend this to involve other women or other people. Common examples are:

• Ma’am
• Mistress
• My Lady
• Goddess
• Madam

Ideas for Normal Situations

• He isn’t allowed to use your name.
• He has to answer “yes, <special name>” whenever you give a command
• Must call other men and women “sir” or “ma’am,” even if he knows their names.
• Must be sure to state your special name before asking any question

When a Slave’s Been Bad

Once again, this rule is so common that it’s almost always in a contract. I can’t think of tougher ways to implement it.

Punishment Ideas

This rule is a vocal one, so punishments can involve the mouth or speech. But don’t let that stop you from popping him in the testicles for forgetting to say your name before a question. Just be sure to catch him every time.

• Make him wear a ball gag for thirty minutes every time he forgets
• Tape his mouth shut when he forgets
• Make him eat or drink something (like alcohol?) every time he messes up.
• Place a clothes pin on his tongue for a while
• Make him hold something with his mouth

9) Must Kiss

Slave must kiss some part of Mistress under some conditions. Type of kiss, duration, and number of kisses are up to you. You could, for example, make him practice kissing until he gets it exactly right.

Body Parts to Kiss

• Vagina
• Ass
• Feet
• Hand
• Mouth

Ideas for Normal Situations

• You can assign different body parts to kiss under different situations. If he forgets or gets one wrong, he gets punished. For example –> He must kiss a chosen body part when you enter the room –> He must kiss your clitoris after you orgasm –> When Waking –> Before Bed –> While showering, he must constantly kiss your vagina –> When seeing something arbitrary, such as a high heel –> Upon hearing an arbitrary word, such as “songbird.”

When a Slave’s Been Bad

• He must practice kissing the chosen body part. The more disobedient he has been, the longer he has to practice.
• Instead of a simple kiss, you can make a complicated series of kisses that he has to get right every time.
• You can put a blindfold on him before he kisses. If he misses the spot, he gets punished.

Punishment Ideas

Kissing is an oral act, so you might want punishments to involve the mouth. Here are some ideas.

• Leave him in a ball gag for a period of time for every mistake he makes with this rule.
• Force him to wear bright red lipstick and gloss (make his lips kissable) to remind him what his duty is.
• Take away the use of his hands (using ropes or chains) and let him use his mouth as hands for a while. When he has had enough, give him a test to see if he has learned his lesson.

10) Must Wear Collar and/or Cuffs

You require your slave to wear a collar, wrist cuffs, or ankle cuffs, or any combination both as a symbol that you own him and so that you can quickly restrain him at any time.
Since the collar and cuffs can’t be ignored, it will force him to remember the situation he’s in. You might want to avoid making him wear a collar while he sleeps, but that is the only one you need to be careful about. Cuffs while sleeping are just fine.

Ideas for Normal Situations

• When he gets up or gets home from work, he must lock a collar and cuffs on himself. Only you can unlock them.
• He has to lock chains that hang freely from his collar and/or cuffs.
• He has to sleep with wrist and/or leg cuffs on.
• He has to lock himself to the bed when he goes to sleep.
• He has to lock something embarrassing to his collar.

When a Slave’s Been Bad

• Not only does he have to lock cuffs on himself when he gets home, he has to lock his wrists together and his ankles together. You unlock him when you get home or by telling him where the key is by phone.
• He must lock something very heavy to his ankle cuff. Like a locked bag of bricks, or a suitcase full of heavy items.
• Make him lock himself to the toilet or to some other immovable object by running a chain behind it.

Punishment Ideas

Usually, the punishment comes from him unlocking the cuffs ahead of schedule. Sometimes this is necessary for safety or for other reasons (like a friend comes by), but you can still punish him for it. Simple restraint is perfect for that.

• Run a rope or chain over a beam in the roof and raise his wrists as high as possible, maybe even making him stand on his toes. Tie it off so that he has to stand like that. Torture as desired. He won’t be able to stop you.
• Before he goes to bed, make him wear short chains that either link his wrists, his ankles, or link a wrist to an ankle. You can also lock his wrists to a bondage belt.
• Tie him in the frogtie and the chicken-wing tie at the same time. Torture him, make him walk on his knees and elbows, or just leave him stuck on the ground for a while.
• Tie him spread-eagled on the bed. Use your imagination after that.

11) Flexibility, Strength, and Weight

I’ve combined three rules into one here. You can force him to reach (or maintain) a specific weight, achieve a certain degree of flexibility, or force him to gain strength. All of these require a test after a long period of time to see if he meets the goal. Failure needs to have a significant-enough punishment that it will push him to exercise and stretch for so many days to try to reach the goal.
It also gives you a convenient way to punish him in a way that will hurt for a long time. You can force him to do 100 situps, for example, and his ab muscles will ache for days. However, this can interfere with other games where you are pushing his body to its limits.

Ideas for Normal Situations

• He has to lose a certain number of pounds by a certain date.
• He has to become flexible enough to perform yoga moves of your choosing
• He must become strong enough to hold something heavy for a period of time

When a Slave’s Been Bad

• Force him to exercise in a tedious and very challenging way, such as crawling to every room in the house fifty times.
• Force him to exercise until he is too exhausted to stop you from overpowering him

Punishment Ideas

These rules require him to exercise so often and for so long that you need to have punishments that will motivate him to work through the pain and boringness of exercise over a period of weeks. Pick punishments that make him pale, or that are worse than the exercise itself.

• Add a period of slavery for every pound he fails to lose by the deadline, maybe a week per pound.
• Put together a list of extreme hard labor that he must do if he fails to make his goal. Make him do the work naked, in chains, or while wearing uncomfortable toys like a large butt-plug.

12) May Not Flinch

Slave is punished for flinching. Pulling away counts as resistance, just like saying “no.” You have free reign over the slave’s body. You can even make him act like he is happy when you touch him. But he can never show you the disrespect of moving away when you want to touch him.

Ideas for Normal Situations

• Once he realizes what you’re reaching for, he must try hard to put that body part in your easy reach, either by moving closer, removing clothes, or assuming an agreed-upon position (like putting his hands behind his head).

When a Slave’s Been Bad

• Add a line in your notes or itinerary to try to get him to flinch a certain number of times each day. Once he passes the test, this rule can be dropped. But be convincing!
• Tie his hands behind his back, and tie those ropes around his balls. Then try to get him to flinch. If he moves, he will yank on his balls. Train him to hold very still by trying to get him to flinch.
• Add extra physical punishments or humiliation if you catch him flinching. (Two punishments instead of one, etc.)

Punishment Ideas

• Tie his hands and legs very securely so that he can’t flinch. Then give him several reasons to flinch while he’s unable to. That way, he can tell the difference between when it is appropriate to flinch and when it isn’t.
• Tie or wrap his hands (which are primarily used to protect body parts) in very awkward orientations so that they are not only useless, but uncomfortable or awkward. For example, tape his thumbs together and secure them to the back of his collar with a short rope.

13) May not Say a certain word

This is both a teasing rule and a very serious one. Consider these two situations:

• He is not allowed to say “no” to anyone.
• He is not allowed to say the word “is.”

In the first example, you make it clear that he’s expected to do whatever anyone asks. This is a straight-forward and common rule.
In the second example, you pick a common word and wait for him to forget the rule, giving you frequent opportunities to punish him.

Ideas for Normal Situations

• He may not use the word “no.”
• He may not use personal pronouns (me, my, our) and instead has to substitute “the slave” for them.
• He may not speak unless addressed by someone (asked a question, etc.)
• You force him to use an embarrassing word for his cock.

When a Slave’s Been Bad

• He has a limit of words (or sentences) that he can say, after which he must be absolutely silent. (If you have a hard time keeping track, just count the number of times he starts talking.
• He may only speak while wearing a gag or with something held in his mouth.

Punishment Ideas

This is simple: if he speaks out of turn, focus on oral punishments. Bad tastes, gags, extremely hot foods, and so on.

• Gag him for a while, possibly sacrificing a meal.
• Make him hold something in his mouth. (Your freshly-worn panties, a jalapeno, or a piece of soap.
• Make him conduct a complicated task with his mouth (such as sorting the sex toys, sorting your panties by color, and so on.

3 SIGNS OF TOPPING FROM THE BOTTOM

3 SIGNS OF TOPPING FROM THE BOTTOM

In BDSM the phrase “Topping from the Bottom” describes when a submissive starts to become more of the dominant in the relationship.  It sometimes happens subconsciously but can also be done on purpose.  It’s a lot like using reverse psychology, and can turn the tables of control without the Dominant realizing it.  Usually the subs are the most to blame for this manipulation, but the Dom is equally at fault when he allows it to happen.  I admit that I have topped from the bottom before, and it can be a hard habit to break.  Here are three signs of topping from the bottom, and what both parties can do to fix it.

Topping from the bottom

1.  Being a constant brat
Now some Doms like their sub a little bratty every once in awhile.  There’s nothing wrong with that.  It can keep things interesting.  Where it becomes a problem is when a sub is routinely a brat, using the behavior to lash out.  Instead of a way to be more playful, it becomes the main way to receive attention and to get what they need.  Needless to say it can irritate and Dom and make him want to give up.

What the sub can do:

If you genuinely want more attention or feel that your needs aren’t getting met, speak up!  As long as it’s done respectfully there is nothing wrong we communicating what you want.  For example, I’ve acted out before after a hard day just to get in trouble.  I know this will get me that stress-relieving spanking I so desperately need.  I’ve learned though that it’s so much better to say,  “Daddy, I’ve had a hard day.  Can you please spank me?”  It makes him happy and so much more aware of my feelings.  And the next time he sees me stressed he knows exactly what I need.  If you’re not comfortable speaking up, you can also write your feelings in a journal that your Dom can read.

What the Dom can do:

When you catch your sub being bratty try to figure out if they’re just acting out for attention.  Instead of just immediately turning to discipline, ask your sub what’s really going on.  If you sense they’re upset give them permission to talk.  Encourage them to maybe use an “I statement”, a phrase where they say, “I feel X when you do Y, and I’d rather you do Z.”  Also, having your sub kneel while you talk to them about their unacceptable bratty behavior can put them back in their place.

2.  Safewording… a lot

Let me start off by saying that there is nothing wrong with using safewords.  They are a sacred part of BDSM, and are there to make sure everything stays safe, sane, and consensual.  A sub should never feel guilty when she uses them legitimately.  The problem arises when it becomes a way to get out of something they just don’t want to do.  It can become the vanilla equivalent of saying they have a headache.  Besides sexual requests they may use a safeword when a situation becomes too emotionally difficult and they just want a break.  The sub becomes the one in control when they safeword because they don’t WANT to do something, not that they CAN’T do something.

What the sub can do:

Before you safeword, ask yourself if you’re just trying to avoid doing something.  If you were to meet your Dom’s demands would it really incur physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, or other harm?  If not, safewording in that instance would be dishonest and could lead to a break in trust.  Remember that topping from the bottom in this way isn’t playing fair.

What the Dom can do:

If your sub safewords, remember that it means they are close to their limit of endurance, or they cannot tolerate any further demands.  Always respect their safeword even if you believe it isn’t genuine.  Your actions should cease completely with immediate effect.  Afterwards, if you do believe the safeword was used casually, tell your sub.  Remind them of the real purpose of BDSM safewords and that misusing them will break your trust.  This firm lecture will probably be enough to put them back in their place.

3.  Saying, “Well, actually I think…”

When a Dom makes a decision it should stand.  A sub from time to time can voice their opinion respectfully when necessary.  But routinely getting a Dom to change their mind will only  hurt the relationship.  This can happen in many different areas.  The Dom may want to have sex in a certain position, but the sub suggests another one instead.  Or he says they’re going to eat at a particular restaurant, but she says she’d rather go to a different one. When this happens and the Dom gives in, it shifts the control in the relationship.

What the sub can do:

When your Dom makes a decision, don’t undermine it.  Even if it’s not what you were wanting that doesn’t matter.  Your role is to please your Dom.  If it’s something you really disagree with you can let them know respectfully.  Another option is to ask them afterwards if next time you can do your choice.  Remember:  you are in a BDSM relationship, and he is your Dominant.  Topping from the bottom will only erode that.

What the Dom can do:

When your sub says, “Well, actually I think…” listen to their suggestion, but then let them know that you are the Dom and you make the decisions.  When they do go along with what you want make sure to give them praise.  It is OK to give your sub choices every once in awhile, but do not make it a habit of yielding to them.

Remember that regularly topping from the bottom is bringing manipulation into a BDSM relationship.  Stay focused in your role as a Dom or a sub, and the power and control will remain healthy.

What is your experience of topping from the bottom? Share your thoughts in the comments.  🖤


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